You’ve been waiting to buy that outfit after you lose the weight.
You’re certain you’ll feel so much better and so much prettier if you just lose the weight, so you wait. You hold off on buying any new clothes until you reach your goal.
But, you feel uncomfortable and miserable. You can’t seem to be happy in your own skin.
You know everything will change when you lose the weight.
You spend years chasing this weight loss and feel frustrated all the time. You feel like a failure. You tell yourself you don’t deserve any new clothes. You don’t deserve to feel beautiful because you can’t seem to do anything right. You feel lazy and frustrated that it’s so hard to lose weight.
You lose the weight and for some reason you still don’t feel comfortable and happy with your new body.
Feeling uncomfortable in your own skin carries over into every aspect of our lives.
When we don’t love the way we look, we often hide from mirrors, from cameras, and we may even lose our confidence to accomplish things that have absolutely nothing to do with our weight.
Today, my goal is to help you know, to truly know how beautiful you are. To know what to do to bring more self-love into your life regardless of your weight or dress size. Because those things don’t matter.
What matters is that you’re comfortable and confident in your own skin.
Before I move on, if you think I’m telling you to throw all of your efforts out the window, I promise that is not the intention. In fact, I wrote a blog post all about how to love your body now AND seek change for it.
Today’s goal is to help you use powerful and positive self-talk to bring more self-love and happiness into your life no matter where you’re at in your journey.
Your body image may or may not be holding you back from accomplishing your daily to-do list, but I’m guessing you’d agree that it often holds you back from other things in life. Maybe it holds you back from working toward hard things. Maybe it holds you back from putting yourself out there. Maybe it just drags you down throughout the day, but if you avoid a mirror, you’ll be fine.
The key to a positive body image and more self-love is practice. It’s first noticing your negative self-talk and changing it into positive self-talk. It’s believing in the positive words you say to and about yourself.
Today, we’re talking about how to incorporate positive self-talk (or affirmations) to bring more body love, more body confidence, and more happiness into your everyday life.
For this exercise, you’ll need your self-love affirmation workbook. It guides you through every step to create a powerful self-love affirmation that you can repeat and use daily.
When you write it, the magic begins.
After you write it, you can start reading it.
When you start reading it, you’ll be able to start saying it.
When you start saying it, you start hearing it.
When you start hearing it, you start to believe it.
When you believe it, things begin to change.
When things begin to change, you will understand. And believe.
4 STEPS TO WRITING A SELF LOVE AFFIRMATION
STEP 1: DREAM
How do you want to feel about your body? What do you want to look like? What do you want to be able to do with your body? What experiences do you want? Spend time dreaming about how it would feel to love your body. What would that look like to you? Write words and phrases that come to mind.
STEP 2: USE KEYWORDS
Now, use those words and phrases and turn them into powerful words. What words describe your beautiful body? Confident? Strong? Beautiful? Write words that mean something to you. Words that make you feel good.
STEP 3: WRITE A STATEMENT
Put those words together into a statement about yourself. Make it present tense and positive. Write your statement as if it was already real.
STEP 4: REPEAT
In order for you to believe your statement, you must repeat it often. When you repeat it often, you start to believe it. It get infused into your entire being. It becomes a part of you. It becomes real.
Want to write your own affirmation or need some suggestions of pre-made affirmations that have worked for others?
The key to self love is not weight loss. It’s not a dress size. The key to loving yourself is to embrace even the flaws. To see beauty no matter where you’re at in your journey. To be grateful for the body that is yours and to find ways to take care of it that feel good to you.
If you want to continue this journey, head on over and follow my popular gratitude practice to help you be grateful and find love for every inch of your body.
You are worth loving. You are worth feeling confident and proud. You are worth it, my friend. Don’t ever let anyone tell you otherwise.