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What to do When you Want to go Back on Another Diet

What to do When you Want to go Back on Another Diet

Do you always feel like another diet or meal plan is staring you in the face begging you to come back? You’re an intuitive eater now, you’re ready to make peace with food and love your body. Join me in fighting off the urge to go back on another diet today.

How More Self-Love Leads To Ultimate Happiness

You’ve been waiting to buy that outfit after you lose the weight.

 

You’re certain you’ll feel so much better and so much prettier if you just lose the weight, so you wait. You hold off on buying any new clothes until you reach your goal.

 

But, you feel uncomfortable and miserable. You can’t seem to be happy in your own skin.

 

You know everything will change when you lose the weight.

 

You spend years chasing this weight loss and feel frustrated all the time. You feel like a failure. You tell yourself you don’t deserve any new clothes. You don’t deserve to feel beautiful because you can’t seem to do anything right. You feel lazy and frustrated that it’s so hard to lose weight.

 

OR…

 

You lose the weight and for some reason you still don’t feel comfortable and happy with your new body.

 

Feeling uncomfortable in your own skin carries over into every aspect of our lives.

 

When we don’t love the way we look, we often hide from mirrors, from cameras, and we may even lose our confidence to accomplish things that have absolutely nothing to do with our weight.

 

Today, my goal is to help you know, to truly know how beautiful you are. To know what to do to bring more self-love into your life regardless of your weight or dress size. Because those things don’t matter.

 

What matters is that you’re comfortable and confident in your own skin.

 

Before I move on, if you think I’m telling you to throw all of your efforts out the window, I promise that is not the intention. In fact, I wrote a blog post all about how to love your body now AND seek change for it.

 

Today’s goal is to help you use powerful and positive self-talk to bring more self-love and happiness into your life no matter where you’re at in your journey.

 

Your body image may or may not be holding you back from accomplishing your daily to-do list, but I’m guessing you’d agree that it often holds you back from other things in life. Maybe it holds you back from working toward hard things. Maybe it holds you back from putting yourself out there. Maybe it just drags you down throughout the day, but if you avoid a mirror, you’ll be fine.

 

The key to a positive body image and more self-love is practice. It’s first noticing your negative self-talk and changing it into positive self-talk. It’s believing in the positive words you say to and about yourself.

 

Today, we’re talking about how to incorporate positive self-talk (or affirmations) to bring more body love, more body confidence, and more happiness into your everyday life.

 

For this exercise, you’ll need your self-love affirmation workbook. It guides you through every step to create a powerful self-love affirmation that you can repeat and use daily.

 

 
 
When you write it, the magic begins.
After you write it, you can start reading it.
When you start reading it, you’ll be able to start saying it.
When you start saying it, you start hearing it.
When you start hearing it, you start to believe it.
When you believe it, things begin to change.
When things begin to change, you will understand. And believe.
 

 

4 STEPS TO WRITING A SELF LOVE AFFIRMATION

 

STEP 1: DREAM

 

How do you want to feel about your body? What do you want to look like? What do you want to be able to do with your body? What experiences do you want? Spend time dreaming about how it would feel to love your body. What would that look like to you? Write words and phrases that come to mind.

 

STEP 2: USE KEYWORDS

 

Now, use those words and phrases and turn them into powerful words. What words describe your beautiful body? Confident? Strong? Beautiful? Write words that mean something to you. Words that make you feel good.

 

STEP 3: WRITE A STATEMENT

 

Put those words together into a statement about yourself. Make it present tense and positive. Write your statement as if it was already real.

 

STEP 4: REPEAT

 

In order for you to believe your statement, you must repeat it often. When you repeat it often, you start to believe it. It get infused into your entire being. It becomes a part of you. It becomes real.

 

Want to write your own affirmation or need some suggestions of pre-made affirmations that have worked for others?

 

 

 

The key to self love is not weight loss. It’s not a dress size. The key to loving yourself is to embrace even the flaws. To see beauty no matter where you’re at in your journey. To be grateful for the body that is yours and to find ways to take care of it that feel good to you.

 

If you want to continue this journey, head on over and follow my popular gratitude practice to help you be grateful and find love for every inch of your body.

 

You are worth loving. You are worth feeling confident and proud. You are worth it, my friend. Don’t ever let anyone tell you otherwise.

 

Can I Love My Body Now and Still Want Weight Loss?

I remember it so vividly. I was speaking to a large room of beautiful women and mothers about body love and self-confidence.

 

I had just finished telling them that they could love every inch of that beautiful body of theirs. That they could accept and even love the flaws. That they were worth so much more than they often gave themselves credit for. I felt inspired and I truly hoped they did too.

 

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After the session, a woman ran up to the front and asked me a question that plagues so many of us when it comes to learning to love our bodies AND take care of them at the same time.

Her question was this:

“How do I know when to accept my body as it is and when I need to work for change? I don't know how to determine where that line is and that is my struggle.”

You’ve seen it all over in blog posts, in news articles, conferences, books, and anywhere you consume information.

 

Love your body! they preach.

 

And you want to. You truly want to.

 

But…

Truthfully, you’re not really happy with the place your body is at. You’re frustrated by it. You’re frustrated you’ve “let yourself go” over the years. You’re frustrated that you’re way too exhausted to hit the gym in the mornings. You’re frustrated that taking better care of yourself feels guilty because it takes what little time you have away from your family. You feel selfish for even thinking about self-care, even though you know it’s not selfish.

It’s not like your current body really holds you back much. I mean, you’re able to still do all the things you need to get done in a day. Granted, you’re exhausted, but that’s the life of a mother! You have a good family, a roof over your head, a job that provides for you. You’re doing pretty well. You decide to ignore accept this “mom body” you’ve acquired over the years, vow to avoid mirrors or pictures, and carry on with life. Still unhappy with your body, but not enough for it to interfere that much with daily life.

If you can avoid any sort of confrontation with your body, keep that swimsuit packed as far away from sunlight as possible, and carry on with life, you’ll be just fine. It’s the life of a mother. It’s what you signed up for, right?

 

WRONG.

 

“Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.” – Lucille Ball

 

 

Why can’t you love that “mom body” you’ve so faithfully earned over the years?

The truth is, there is nothing wrong with learning to love and accept your body right now AND still seek change. It doesn’t mean you have a bad body image. It means you love yourself enough to want to take better care of it. It means you speak kindly of your body, embrace imperfection, and love the journey.

 

What is the balance between body acceptance and seeking body change?


 

First, practice gratitude.

 

Have you ever thanked your body for all it’s done for you? I mean really stepped in front of a mirror and turned every negative thought, every flaw into gratitude?

I go into major depth about using gratitude to change our body image in this post, but it truly is the first step in any journey toward more self-love.

If the thought of standing in front of a mirror and saying nice things about yourself is too much right now, grab a piece of paper and write a letter of gratitude to your body. Spend 5-10 minutes writing your letter. Come back to it every time you find that negative body talk creeping back into your life.

 

Letter of Gratitude


Second, be realistic.

 

Sometimes I think we want the body we had in high school with all the maturity and wisdom of a 30-year-old woman.

Or, maybe you want to get your body back to wherever it was when you were in your “best shape ever”. Having goals is fantastic. Working hard to reach them is fabulous. Chasing an unrealistic ideal is not. It will only leave us feeling deflated, defeated, and frustrated.

There is a fine line between setting good, challenging goals and being completely unrealistic.

Ask yourself what is realistic for you. In fact, ask yourself “why”. Why do you seek change? Will taking better care of your body give you more confidence? Do you want to be a good example for your kids? Do you want to feel like you’re doing everything you can to live the fullest life possible?

 

Instead of a number on a scale, how do you want to feel? How do you want to feel in your own skin? That’s the change you’re working toward.

 

Having a goal that means something to you is so much more than a dress size. It’s not stressing about the time frame or the end result. It’s taking care of yourself in a way that fits your lifestyle right now. It’s knowing that you’re doing everything you can with your time and resources to take care of that special gift that is your body.

 
 

Third, change one thing at a time.

 

When we want change, we usually want it all at once. I hope this blog post today has helped you understand how important it is to love yourself first no matter what kind of change you desire.

 

Once you have a self-love practice, the “taking care of you” part comes much more naturally.

 

Start making daily choices that nourish your body in a way that will get you one step closer to your desired change.

 

Love your body enough to give it lots of fruits and vegetables. Love your body enough to go to bed early so you can fit in a quick 20 minute exercise routine in the morning. Love your body enough to buy clothes that you feel comfortable in now. Love your body enough to learn how to do some strength training (because if there’s anything that will make your body feel physically strong, it’s that). Love your body enough to manage stress in ways other than turning to junk food.

 

Only you will be able to find the balance between self-love and seeking change, but, when you get there, you’ll know it.

 

You’ll start to feel confident. You’ll take care of yourself in different ways than ever before. You’ll throw out the guilt for taking care of yourself because you realize it’s what makes you better in everything you do.

 

If you’ve ever used affirmations or are curious about how to bring more self-love into your life, I’ve made you an entire workbook to help you create your own self-love affirmation to guide you in this journey. There are even some pre-made affirmations if the thought of writing your own feels overwhelming. It’s a great place to start replacing the negative self and body talk into positive and uplifting words and phrases.

 

And if you have a friend or family member whom you love and want to share this with, please share this message. We need a world filled with more confident women who love themselves in every way.