What to do When you Feel Guilty After Overeating

In this blog post, I will take you through some commonly asked questions about overeating and what to do when you feel guilt, frustration, or lack of control with food.

Today’s blog post is unique and one that I’m very excited for. I recently polled several women who struggle with feelings of overeating, emotional eating, and the associated guilt that often follows. The following are actual questions I received and today I’m going to answer them for everyone!


If you find yourself struggling with emotional eating, overeating, guilt, mindless eating, or anything associated with having a difficult relationship with food, I hope you’ll get some answers you need from today’s post.


Without further ado, let’s get to the questions and answers!



“I feel like I eat all of the time. I eat when I am happy, when I am sad, when I am bored! I eat all the time, even when I am not hungry. I do my best to stop, but it is so hard to quit this habit of eating all the time. How do I stop overeating?”


This is a classic sign of emotional eating. Emotional eating is not just about eating ice cream on the couch while watching a chick flick. Not even close. It’s about using food as a soother for your emotions.


Emotional eating can occur anytime you experience an emotion. It can even be in response to a celebration or feeling happy! If you want to learn more about overcoming emotional eating, here’s a blog post with 5 steps to helping you overcoming emotional eating and make peace with food. And if you’re really ready to dive in, I’ve even created a free mini course that focuses specifically on understanding emotional eating and creating your own plan for dealing with it. You can sign up for the free course here.


To simplify a very complicated topic, let’s break it down into actionable steps.





When you have the urge to eat, take 30 seconds to stop and think about where the urge is coming from. Are you angry and craving a bag of chips? Did you make it through a hard day and just want a treat? Notice what emotions you are experiencing. That’s all you have to do is take note of them!


#2. ACT

The second step is to act. Act on the emotion. If the emotion is anger, what will help you calm down? How will you feel if you eat that bag of chips? Will it calm you down, or would a walk instead? Pick one emotion, then find one non-food way to deal with it. If you’re still hungry when you’re done dealing with it, then allow yourself to mindfully eat the food you want without guilt and without overindulging.




“It is easy for me to plow through a whole row of oreos before I’ve even realized what I’ve done. Then I beat myself up for doing that.”


I know what you mean! My favorite reminder of this is when we go to the movies and make it through the popcorn before the previews are even over! In fact, if you want to read a little more about my story and background with intuitive eating, head here.


Not knowing where your food goes is often a good indicator that you are eating while distracted.


If you find yourself plowing through your lunch during work, snacking in the car, or grabbing food to scarf quickly, I have one activity for you to do. And because I know you’re busy, it will only take you 15 minutes once per week.


Choose one meal per week (of course you can do more if you’re up for it) to sit down and eat mindfully and then follow my mindful eating meditation outlined below.



Upon sitting, rate your hunger levels on a scale of 1 (not hungry) to 10 (stuffed)

Eat your meal mindfully and rate your hunger every 5 minutes

At the end of the meal, rate your hunger again. Take note of how your body feels. Are you satisfied?


The goal is to stop eating when you are at 80% full. Or a level 7-8. This is a good measurement of satisfaction and fullness.


Then, when you’re out and about, you can take what you’ve learned and apply it exactly the same. It’s 100% unrealistic to expect ourselves to be able to sit down and mindfully eat a meal at the table every time we have to eat. This is a great way to help you learn to eat mindfully on the go. In fact, I have a blog post allll about this if you want to check it out.




"I tell myself I’ll eat just one of something, and then again, eat way more than I intended."

"I have a hard time saying no to multiple invites to dinner. And once I’m there, it’s an all-you-can-eat buffet. I can’t portion control. I can’t say no to anything unhealthy."


The best thing I can say to this is to PLAN, PLAN, PLAN. It’s ok to enjoy parties and events. It’s good for your mental and social health. But, if you’re constantly worried about the food, then you’re really going to struggle every time someone invites you to an event, party, or restaurant.


You CAN eat mindfully even when there is a lot of food around. But, you need a plan. A flexible plan that will allow you to enjoy and feel in control over your choices.


The guilt free holiday workbook will help you do exactly this. It helps you create a plan that works for you. (And remember, it’s not just for the holidays!)



As far as tips go, here are some actual plans from past clients that have helped them create and stick to a plan.



Do not go to the party hungry. Have a small, satisfying snack beforehand

Prepare a healthy dish you enjoy and take it with you

Enjoy one plate of food and then remove yourself from the food once you are done to eliminate the temptation to go back for seconds

Choose 1-2 desserts to mindfully enjoy




“What do we do when we make food choices we wish we hadn’t and then feel guilty afterwards?”


Ah, we’ve all been there. The guilt. The frustration. The feelings of failure.


The good news is that it’s all completely normal.


Even seasoned intuitive eaters find themselves in this situation from time to time. You can read all about making a plan and sticking to your goals in the questions above, but for this one we’re going to focus on what to do if you mess up your plan or have any feelings of guilt after certain food choices.


It’s all about self talk. In fact, let me guess that the last time you felt guilty for eating, you probably turned it toward yourself. Did you say things like, “I’m a failure”, or “I’ll never have any control over food”, or “I have no self control”.


We often tend to place our feelings about food on our actual selves. We turn a certain episode with food and pair it with our identity.


So, the next time you feel guilty for overeating, try the powerful self talk method.



First, be kind to yourself. Remind yourself that everyone messes up and messing up is an opportunity to learn. It’s completely normal

Second, focus on 3 good events you’ve had with food this week. Remind yourself that this was a slip up, and that’s it. You don’t have to make it a habit.

Third, create one self-talk mantra you can say to yourself to help you when you want to slip up next time. It could be something like, “Remember how eating so many cookies made you feel last time? Try having 2 this time and stopping to notice how your body feels. Then go somewhere away from the food”. Create a simple scenario in your mind, practice it, and then you’ll remember it the next time you find yourself in that same situation.


But always remember that we are human. We will mess up.


Perfection is not the goal. Progress is the goal.




“I don't normally eat sweets through the year but come Halloween and all heck breaks loose and I'm on a free for all until the day after January 1st. Help!!!”

“I cheat myself out of my healthy belief system every holiday by allowing myself more treats than I should eat! I completely toss the healthy life I want and I go back every time, like a mashed potato and gravy junkie. I can’t help myself!”


The holiday free-for-all. We know it so well.


It’s the holidays, we might as well eat, drink and be merry… until January 1st.


This is a loaded subject with more answers than I can give in this blog post, but rest assured I will be doing more posts about this in the future! And I know it’s something we struggle with throughout the year when holidays come and go. We think we’ll do better on Monday, or after that holiday, or when we have a wedding to go to, or a beach vacation.


Again, I cannot stress enough that the key to a successful holiday (no matter what time of year) is to have a plan. It doesn’t have to be complicated, but it has to be reasonable and actionable for you.