Don't recognize "you" anymore?
Ready to love the skin you're in today?
I approach today's topic with a very sensitive and loving heart as I know it may be a hard topic for you or even someone you love. But, it's important and something you've asked for lately, so today we're going to address it.
I'm Elizabeth and I'm here to today to help you become a woman of wellness by healing your relationship with your body. In my opinion, it truly is the first step in any wellness journey. (Watch video above or read script below)
If you cannot love who you are now, you will likely still struggle to love who you are even when you've reached your goals.
I recently received 2 great questions asking for help with body image and I want to share them with you now.
"Elizabeth, how do you learn to love your body when you feel like it's not even "you" anymore?"
And from another gal, "I think as a woman it's hard to love our body through times of change; women have so many changing times throughout our lives... that's my hardest part. How do we overcome this?"
Have you ever felt like either of these ladies?
It makes total sense - women's bodies go through a LOT of change over many years.
We hit puberty, we bear children, we raise children, we go through menopause, and all of the other stuff in between.
So, if you feel like you're struggling to recognize your body or love it through all stages of life, I hope today's video will inspire you and help you see a little more love for yourself.
And let me first say that no matter what season of life you're in, or where you're at with your own self-love, you're in the right place.
Let me first tell you that you are beautifully and wonderfully made. When I was in college, my friend and I came up with an affirmation that we still both use today.
When we were having a hard time, needed a boost, or just wanted to feel like we could conquer the world, we would repeat the phrase, "I am beautiful, I am powerful, I am strong".
This simple affirmation has helped us remember who we are and what we're truly capable of. (and if you want some help creating your own affirmation, I have a free affirmation workbook you can download - it's linked in the description of this video).
So, today, before I share HOW to love your body, I first want to tell you that you are beautiful, you are powerful and you are strong.
You are worthy of love. Love from others, but most importantly love from yourself. In fact, let me ask you, do you love yourself right now? Why or why not? Think about your own self-talk for a minute - what words and phrases do you use to describe yourself and your body? Are they more negative, more positive? Just think about it as we go throughout this video.
3 STEPS TO MORE SELF LOVE
The first is to practice gratitude. Sometimes you don't see what your body has done for you until you take the time to realize just how much you've been through!
Take a few minutes to sit down and write a letter of gratitude to yourself. Thank yourself for all you've been through. Maybe you've borne children, or accomplished something hard, or beat an illness, or whatever is it for you, take a minute to write down your gratitude for getting through those milestones in life.
Then, if you're ready, focus on your physical body. Start from the top of your head and work your way down to your toes. What about your physical body can you be grateful for?
This is the time that negative self-talk might creep in. Have you always struggled with the size of your legs? Have you used words like "fat, big, touching thighs", or anything similar? What if instead, you changed those words to "strong, healthy, and endure"?
I love my legs because they are strong enough to help me carry my toddler and soon to be baby girl. My strong legs have helped me finish some challenging races and hikes. My legs are healthy and beautiful and I am so grateful for all they do for me.
Go through each area of your body and reframe the negative self-talk through gratitude. No matter where you're at right now, you can still love your body. Don't let the phrases creep in, "when I am in shape, I will love my stomach", or "This just isn't me".
This is you. And you can love you right now.
Please spend a minute doing this. I don't think I can truly portray how powerful it can be for you. If you need, stop right here and go do it. You can come back later or another day. This is a huge and important step.
And, if you're struggling to find love or gratitude for certain aspects of yourself or your body, take a mental note of it, and remind yourself that it's ok to come back to later. Be grateful for what you can now - the other stuff will come.
FOCUS ON THE POSITIVE
Now... the second step in your self-love journey is to start focusing on the positive. This is where your self-love affirmations come in.
And if you haven't yet, I encourage you to download my affirmation workbook because it will help guide you step by step through writing an affirmation just for you.
Instead of dwelling on the negative thoughts you have about your body, I want you to start thinking about all of the positive words you can about how you want your body to feel and how you want to feel in your body.
Some words that come to my mind are "strong, energized, healthy, confident, radiant, gentle, giving, loving, happy, powerful, persistent, and so much more."
Again, pause if you have to and write down a few words that describe how you want to feel. It's ok if you don't feel them now, this will come.
Now that you have those words, create a phrase, mantra, or affirmation just like the one I shared at the beginning of this video. "I am beautiful, I am powerful, I am strong."
Put your words together into a sentence or a phrase that you can memorize and repeat daily.
Let me share a few of my favorite affirmations.
“My body is beautiful to me. I am confident, called, and capable. I am thriving.”
“I believe in myself. I can do anything I set my mind to. Confidence and beauty radiate throughout my body.”
“I am beautiful and unique. I do not compare myself or my body to others. I love myself for all that I am at this very moment.”
There are so many different paths you could take to create your affirmation. Create something that is unique and powerful for you.
And guess what? It might be hard at first. That's ok! Don't stress about whether you feel it or even believe it right now. In fact, let me share with you a quote about the power of affirmations, and not just in the creation of them, but in the practice of repeating them daily.
"When you write it, the magic begins.
After you write it, you can start reading it.
When you start reading it, you’ll be able to start saying it.
When you start saying it, you start hearing it.
When you start hearing it, you start to believe it.
When you believe it, things begin to change.
When things begin to change, you will understand. And believe."
Go create your affirmation today. Don't put it off. Then, set it by your bedside, type it in your phone, or put in somewhere where you'll see it often. Memorize it. Repeat it. Live it.
Self-talk is one of the most powerful things in the world. Negative self-talk has the power to bring us so far down. This means that positive self-talk has immense power to change our lives.
So, no matter what season of life you're in, no matter where you're at with your goals, you can love your body no matter what.
Start loving yourself today because you're worth it. You are beautiful. You are powerful, and you are strong, my friend.