How to Deal with Food during Hard Times

How to Deal with Food during Hard Times

Food is our friend. Especially when we are going through a hard time. Have you ever found yourself struggling with your relationship with food when times get tough? It’s hard to navigate the emotional eating, the overeating, the binging, and everything that comes when you’re trying to survive. Read the post to help you navigate nutrition during different seasons of life.

What to do When you Want to go Back on Another Diet

What to do When you Want to go Back on Another Diet

Do you always feel like another diet or meal plan is staring you in the face begging you to come back? You’re an intuitive eater now, you’re ready to make peace with food and love your body. Join me in fighting off the urge to go back on another diet today.

Obsession Versus Neglect: How to Find the Right Self-Care Balance

I remember it well. 

I just finished speaking to a group of 100 women about loving your body. Shortly after, a sweet woman came up to me with tears in her eyes asking me how to find the right balance between feeling obsessed with making changes to her body and neglecting herself. She told me she was wearing herself out at the gym trying to be perfect, and her body was changing just like she wanted, but she was so obsessed making sure she put in her time at the gym, she felt like other things in her life were getting neglected and completely out of balance. I could tangibly feel her frustration and her true desire to love and care for the body she was in, but also how to have a balance in other areas of her life. 

Have you ever been there? Wanting to make a change but feeling the need to be perfect at that change or else you’ll end up back where you started?

Hi, I’m Elizabeth and I’m here to help you become a woman of wellness by healing your relationship with food and loving your body. Today’s topic is one I approach with the most sensitivity and love I can for you because I’ve been there and I know you’ve either been there or are there right now. And no matter what degree of frustration you have with your body, know that you’re in the right place and I hope my message today will help you find more hope, more love for your body, and a way to find a balance that makes you feel your best. 

Today I want to talk about balance. 

Do you know who the world’s biggest perfectionist is? Me. Yep, it’s true. I’ve been known to buy at least probably a thousand notebooks with the desire to start journaling but in order to do it I must have the perfect cute notebook, the perfect pencil, and not miss one single day. I’m embarrassed to tell you how many journals have about 5 pages written in them and the rest of it is blank because I become paralyzed when I don’t do it perfectly. 

Do you ever feel this way with your health? If you want to lose weight or make a change, you have to do it perfectly or what’s the point in starting?

I’ve been there soooooo many times. 

Perfectionism is crippling. It stops you before you even start. 

I have tried to organize a perfect house at least 25,463 times. Yeah, I think that’s the right number. I have a vision of how the toys are organized perfectly, and how we have a perfect cleaning schedule, and how we never have clutter lying around. And guess what? Every time I do that, my house gets even more cluttered (I seriously don’t know how it happens) and my anxiety skyrockets. It’s so frustrating. 

It’s even more frustrating that I KNOW that perfectionism won’t get me anywhere, but I still try it. But I know that one of the reasons I’m not able to get a handle on it is because I don’t know how to approach it. Every time I go in with the fallback idea of it’s going to be perfect this time. There’s that word again.

How many times have you said that to yourself? This time will be better? The 25,463 times before were just practice rounds. My mom always used to tell me I was really good at learning things the hard way. But, then I realized (after 30+ years of life experience) that the only way we learn is the hard way. We learn because we mess up and find a way to change it. We continually make mistakes, fall off the path, get back on the path, and we do it with everything. 

Wouldn’t you say the drive for perfection is sooooo much more common in the health and wellness arena? How many times have you tried to make a change to your lifestyle? How many diet plans have you started? How many exercise programs have you bought with the best of intentions? And as soon as you’re not perfect, you move on. First, you get frustrated and go on a binge of some sort, maybe a food binge or a couch potato binge? 

So, how do you know where the perfect balance between obsession and neglect of your body is? 

I wish I had the perfect number for you, like 25,463 workouts, or 25,463 calories per month (I don’t even know, I just made that up and remember we don’t count calories over here). But, the truth is, your balance is uniquely yours. 

But, I do have a guide for you to help you find your balance. Phew, were you worried I was just going to leave you hanging? I’m not going to give you the perfect plan to follow, but I do have a roadmap that I think will really help as you work on finding your own happy balance. 

When wondering how to find a better wellness balance in your life, ask yourself the following questions:

  1. What do I want?

  2. What is realistic for me?

  3. What season of life am I in right now?

  4. What are my priorities?

  5. What are my non-negotiables?

First, What do I want?

What does becoming a woman of wellness look like to you? Go deeper than just physical appearance. What do you feel like as a woman of wellness? What are you able to do? How would you describe your relationship with food? How would you describe your relationship with your body? What would movement and exercise look like in your daily life? Instead of looking for a number on a scale or a dress size, go deeper with yourself. Write it down as a guide for your journey and a reminder of your “why”. 

Second, what is realistic for me?

My husband has a co-worker that is a figure competitor. Just the other day he told me that she wakes up at 3 AM to walk on her treadmill for 2 hours, then spends an hour at the gym and fills most of her day with meal prepping and eating a diet that allows her body to be competition ready. 

I have nothing against figure competing and setting and reaching goals, but for me, that lifestyle sounds absolutely painful. And I’m guessing if you’re here, you’re probably not wanting to be a bodybuilder either. 

Is it realistic for you to hit the gym at 5 AM when you’re up most of the night wondering if your teenager will actually show up before curfew? You’ve probably heard that exercise is best in the morning (which is a myth by the way), but what if you’re not a morning person? Do you think an early morning exercise session is going to awaken some inner morning goddess that’s been dying to come out? Maybe, but probably not. 

It’s true that often we have to make sacrifices to change our lives, but make sure those sacrifices are not so hard that you’ll want to stop before you even start. Write down what is realistic for you right now. 

Third, “what season of life am I in right now?”

When I have little babies, I do the bare minimum to keep myself alive. Just like seasons of the weather, we have seasons in life. Sometimes we have seasons to slow down and other times we have seasons to blossom and grow. Ask yourself what season you’re in and honor it the best way possible. How can you become a woman of wellness in THIS season?

Make a list of your non-negotiables. 

What are the most important things that make you feel well? Do them. Make them non-negotiable. Make what I like to call a “basics” list. What are the basics you must do each day or each week to help you feel at your best? Then, when you’re in a season of abundance and blossoming, build on to it. When you’re in a season of survival, stick to the basics. 

Now, if you’ve been here for more than 2 seconds you know I’m all about helping you take action, so here’s your cue. Go get a notebook, write down these 5 questions and fill in your answers. 

What does a woman of wellness look like to YOU right this minute? Not what it looks like for me or your neighbor, but for you? Then, share with us in the comments!

Thanks again for being here! See you next time!

Want to love your body? Try this simple technique

You’re here because you want a better body image.


I’m so happy to have you here! Loving on that body that is uniquely yours is one of the best things you can do for yourself.


I truly believe (and have seen mighty changes in my clients) that learning to love yourself is the first step in any good health and wellness journey.


It’s the step toward achieving everything you want. It’s the first step in being truly happy and content with the journey and not just looking at the endpoint.


But, for whatever reason, your body image has declined over the years. Maybe you feel like you’re sporting the “mom bod” after having children. Maybe you’re busy with work and taking care of a family that you haven’t had a lot of time to give to yourself. Or, maybe you have always really struggled with loving yourself fully and completely.


Whatever it looks like for you, today’s post is all about loving that body right now. Not in the future at a certain weight or dress size. Not tomorrow. Right now.


In fact, I’m guessing that your image of your body doesn’t really affect your day to day life that much. You are still able to accomplish most of what you need to get done without being affected by how your body looks. You usually just avoid being in front of a mirror for too long and always want to be in the back when someone’s taking a photo.


You may not think your body image interferes with daily life, but it does.


It affects the way you talk about yourself. It affects the way you act daily.


What does your self talk look like when talking about your body?


Do you only see flaws?


Do you only see things you want to change?


Do you carry that self-talk over into how you feel about yourself as a whole? Maybe you see a body you’re frustrated with in the mirror and quickly judge yourself as lazy or unable to accomplish any goals you set out to achieve?


Having a positive body image and engaging in regular positive self-talk can bring profound changes in your life. In fact, our practice today will be a popular gratitude practice that will help you get started on the right path toward loving your body and taking care of it in the way that is best for you because a positive body image also brings a desire for more self-care.


But first, if you’ve ever tried using positive affirmations, you know how powerful they can be in your life. So, I’ve created an entire easy to follow workbook that will help you create your very own self love affirmation. It’s a great start to your journey toward a better body image and something my clients have seen great success with. And if you don’t want to create your own, I also have an entire page of pre-made affirmations to help you on this journey.


Repeat your affirmation daily in conjunction with the following gratitude practice I will guide you through today.


The first step in building a better body image is to practice gratitude. In fact, if you’ve read other blog posts of mine, it’s the foundation for every solid health and wellness journey you find yourself on. Skipping this foundational piece can make you feel like you are missing an integral part of the journey.


This practice can be used anytime you need a simple reminder of how wonderful and amazing your body truly is and how much you can love it no matter where you’re at in each stage of life or each stage of your goals.


Now, I want you to spend time actually going through this with me today. This is not a blog post to just read and close out. Today you will start a gratitude practice.


Get comfortable in your chair, eliminate distractions, and join me for the next 5 minutes.





First, take a minute to scan your entire body (you may close your eyes). What are you feeling? What emotions do you feel? Do you have pain anywhere? Tension? Do you feel uncomfortable in any place? What words and phrases come to mind as you think about your body as a whole?


Move up the body to your torso. Your stomach and chest area. Again, what thoughts initially come up? Are they negative or positive? Look down at your torso. Start thanking it (you can do this in your head or out loud) for everything it’s been for you. Do you have things you don’t like about your torso? Change those negative thoughts into positive ones. What physical traits do you love about your torso? Remember, your torso houses your heart. Use your heart to be thankful for this area of your body. Vow to always speak kindly to this area of your body. 


Moving outward toward your upper limbs, what emotions come up for your arms? Have you always hated your arms? Do you wish they were stronger? Throw out those self-defeating thoughts and start to reframe your thoughts into all that those arms have done and been for you. What do they accomplish on a daily basis? Where have those hands been? What stories can they tell? Think hard about all of the things your arms have done for you and still do for you every day. Thank them tremendously and vow to always speak kindly to them moving forward. 


Scan your head. Scan your face, your skin, your eyes, ears, nose, etc. What words come up? Do you find yourself wishing your features were different? Go through each feature of your face and say one thing you love about it. Think about all the things those eyes have seen. All the beautiful smells that nose has smelled. Think about your mouth and everything you are able to communicate. Think about your brain and the amazing way it gets you through every single day. Think about the memories you hold dear in that brain. Thank your head for all that it is for you. Thank it for the features that allow you to live a full life. Vow to always speak kindly to each area of your face and head. 


Scan your entire body one more time. Now what emotions are coming up? Can you find a smile on your face? Can you see a more beautiful body inside and out? Are you more thankful? What emotions came up for you? What blocks or negative thoughts are still hard to overcome? 

As you continue to work on your body image, go back and perform this gratitude practice as often as you need. Eventually, you will feel more confident in your physical attributes. You will start to love even the physical parts of your body.

I hope this was helpful. I hope you’ll use it often. 

Thank you for joining me in this gratitude practice. Share with any dear friends that need this message. 

And don’t forget your affirmation workbook. It’s another incredible tool that will help you bring more positive self talk into your life. More positive self talk = a happier lifestyle.

"There is nothing more rare, nor more beautiful, than a woman being unapologetically herself; comfortable in her perfect imperfection.” ― Steve Maraboli


Can I Love My Body Now and Still Want Weight Loss?

I remember it so vividly. I was speaking to a large room of beautiful women and mothers about body love and self-confidence.


I had just finished telling them that they could love every inch of that beautiful body of theirs. That they could accept and even love the flaws. That they were worth so much more than they often gave themselves credit for. I felt inspired and I truly hoped they did too.




After the session, a woman ran up to the front and asked me a question that plagues so many of us when it comes to learning to love our bodies AND take care of them at the same time.

Her question was this:

“How do I know when to accept my body as it is and when I need to work for change? I don't know how to determine where that line is and that is my struggle.”

You’ve seen it all over in blog posts, in news articles, conferences, books, and anywhere you consume information.


Love your body! they preach.


And you want to. You truly want to.



Truthfully, you’re not really happy with the place your body is at. You’re frustrated by it. You’re frustrated you’ve “let yourself go” over the years. You’re frustrated that you’re way too exhausted to hit the gym in the mornings. You’re frustrated that taking better care of yourself feels guilty because it takes what little time you have away from your family. You feel selfish for even thinking about self-care, even though you know it’s not selfish.

It’s not like your current body really holds you back much. I mean, you’re able to still do all the things you need to get done in a day. Granted, you’re exhausted, but that’s the life of a mother! You have a good family, a roof over your head, a job that provides for you. You’re doing pretty well. You decide to ignore accept this “mom body” you’ve acquired over the years, vow to avoid mirrors or pictures, and carry on with life. Still unhappy with your body, but not enough for it to interfere that much with daily life.

If you can avoid any sort of confrontation with your body, keep that swimsuit packed as far away from sunlight as possible, and carry on with life, you’ll be just fine. It’s the life of a mother. It’s what you signed up for, right?




“Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.” – Lucille Ball



Why can’t you love that “mom body” you’ve so faithfully earned over the years?

The truth is, there is nothing wrong with learning to love and accept your body right now AND still seek change. It doesn’t mean you have a bad body image. It means you love yourself enough to want to take better care of it. It means you speak kindly of your body, embrace imperfection, and love the journey.


What is the balance between body acceptance and seeking body change?


First, practice gratitude.


Have you ever thanked your body for all it’s done for you? I mean really stepped in front of a mirror and turned every negative thought, every flaw into gratitude?

I go into major depth about using gratitude to change our body image in this post, but it truly is the first step in any journey toward more self-love.

If the thought of standing in front of a mirror and saying nice things about yourself is too much right now, grab a piece of paper and write a letter of gratitude to your body. Spend 5-10 minutes writing your letter. Come back to it every time you find that negative body talk creeping back into your life.


Letter of Gratitude

Second, be realistic.


Sometimes I think we want the body we had in high school with all the maturity and wisdom of a 30-year-old woman.

Or, maybe you want to get your body back to wherever it was when you were in your “best shape ever”. Having goals is fantastic. Working hard to reach them is fabulous. Chasing an unrealistic ideal is not. It will only leave us feeling deflated, defeated, and frustrated.

There is a fine line between setting good, challenging goals and being completely unrealistic.

Ask yourself what is realistic for you. In fact, ask yourself “why”. Why do you seek change? Will taking better care of your body give you more confidence? Do you want to be a good example for your kids? Do you want to feel like you’re doing everything you can to live the fullest life possible?


Instead of a number on a scale, how do you want to feel? How do you want to feel in your own skin? That’s the change you’re working toward.


Having a goal that means something to you is so much more than a dress size. It’s not stressing about the time frame or the end result. It’s taking care of yourself in a way that fits your lifestyle right now. It’s knowing that you’re doing everything you can with your time and resources to take care of that special gift that is your body.


Third, change one thing at a time.


When we want change, we usually want it all at once. I hope this blog post today has helped you understand how important it is to love yourself first no matter what kind of change you desire.


Once you have a self-love practice, the “taking care of you” part comes much more naturally.


Start making daily choices that nourish your body in a way that will get you one step closer to your desired change.


Love your body enough to give it lots of fruits and vegetables. Love your body enough to go to bed early so you can fit in a quick 20 minute exercise routine in the morning. Love your body enough to buy clothes that you feel comfortable in now. Love your body enough to learn how to do some strength training (because if there’s anything that will make your body feel physically strong, it’s that). Love your body enough to manage stress in ways other than turning to junk food.


Only you will be able to find the balance between self-love and seeking change, but, when you get there, you’ll know it.


You’ll start to feel confident. You’ll take care of yourself in different ways than ever before. You’ll throw out the guilt for taking care of yourself because you realize it’s what makes you better in everything you do.


If you’ve ever used affirmations or are curious about how to bring more self-love into your life, I’ve made you an entire workbook to help you create your own self-love affirmation to guide you in this journey. There are even some pre-made affirmations if the thought of writing your own feels overwhelming. It’s a great place to start replacing the negative self and body talk into positive and uplifting words and phrases.


And if you have a friend or family member whom you love and want to share this with, please share this message. We need a world filled with more confident women who love themselves in every way.


Daily Rituals for the Stressed Out Woman



Nearly all of us have rituals we engage in, though we may not even be aware of them.  Some are positive, such as saying a prayer before going to bed or putting sunscreen on in the morning.  Others are negative, such as lighting a cigarette (which most are not proud of) as soon as you leave work and get in your car.  By creating rituals that focus on empowerment, health, and wellness, they can help you improve your life by eliminating stress and growing focus. 


You may feel that you are so busy with your day to day life, balancing work, home, and family obligations, that you don’t have time to devote to empowerment and focus rituals.  It’s okay for you to take time for yourself, though.  By caring for your emotional and physical health, you will be able to care more about others.  Also, engaging in morning and evening rituals thatallow you to see the world more calmly helps you to tackle your day more effectively and efficiently. 


If you feel guilty for practicing self-care to reduce your stress levels, take a few moments to journal how you feel by creating a list of your emotions. The more you are honest with yourself, the more emotions of guilt you’ll release onto the paper. Always remember that you deserve to be cared for, it’s ok to not always be the caretaker. The caretaker is only good to help others when she herself is cared for as well.



Morning Rituals to Focus and Energize


Indulge in Quiet

Set your alarm for 15-20 minutes before you normally wake up.  Use the time to sit in your favorite spot and enjoy peace and quiet.  Fix a cup of coffee or herbal tea to sip while you enjoy the stillness.  Sit outside on your porch, if you prefer.  However, don’t use this time to play on Facebook, don’t watch the news.  This time is for you to wake up slowly and appreciate quiet moments before your day begins. 


Plan Your Big Three

When you write your daily plan, don’t overload your day with an insurmountable list of huge tasks.  You’ll be stressed out before the day begins and disappointed when you can’t do it all.  Choose just three large or meaningful tasks to complete each day.  You will likely get the same amount done as writing your long list, only this way, you won’t be thinking about what you didn’t get done.   You will feel less stressed and more accomplished, and you will end up getting the same or more done in the day!


Get Hydrated

Each morning, drink 16 ounces of water to get a great start for your day.  Dehydration causes fatigue, headaches, and overeating, which is a terrible combination when you already have a busy day ahead of you.  Drinking water helps give you natural energy and wakes up your metabolism, so it’s a great ritual to begin!


Evening Rituals to Remove Stress and Encourage Calming


Take a 15-Minute Walk

 If you are struggling with depression or anxiety, exercise can be as beneficial as prescription treatment.  Taking a walk each evening is an excellent way to improve your physical health and your emotional state.  While a short walk may not seem like it would be effective, it’s a great way to clear your mind, encourage deep breathing, and help you decompress before bed.


Reflect on Your Day

 In the evening, when all is said and done, take a few minutes and reflect on your day.  What made it positive?  What challenges did you face?  This is a great way to see what worked for you and what you can do differently tomorrow.  Instead of beating yourself up for a mistake or for forgetting something, take time to forgive yourself, and learn what you can do to make tomorrow better!


Indulge in Quiet

 Just like in the morning, indulging in quiet time is a great ritual for the evening.  Instead of using the time to wake up and get your day started, this time, take slow deep breaths and focus on calming down.  All of the noise of the day - your cell phone, traffic, conversation, etc, can wear on your mind, and the 15 minutes of quiet right before bed allows you to be in a calm place to help you sleep. 





Creator of the "From Frazzled to Fabulous" program, Karen is an expert in holistic health and life transformation, helping hundreds of busy women find health, balance and a life of their own design. She is a certified Holistic Health Coach (Institute of Integrative Nutrition), Life Coach (The Life Coach Institute), Transformational Life Coach (Holistic MBA) and an aromatherapist, and uses the knowledge gained as well as her unique insights to mentor heart-centered women through her various online programs. In a world where a woman’s success is measured by her home and career, "From Frazzled to Fabulous" is becoming a philosophy that simply makes sense and Karen is there to guide you through it.

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